Personal Love

Dear Human: You’ve got it all wrong. You didn’t come here to master unconditional love. That is where you came from and where you’ll return.

You came here to learn personal love. Universal love. Messy love. Sweaty love. Crazy love. Broken love. Whole love. Infused with divinity. Lived through the grace of stumbling. Demonstrated through the beauty of… messing up. Often.

You didn’t come here to be perfect. You already are. You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous. And then to rise again into remembering. But unconditional love? Stop telling that story. Love, in truth, doesn’t need ANY other adjectives.

It doesn’t require modifiers. It doesn’t require the condition of perfection. It only asks that you show up. And do your best. That you stay present and feel fully. That you shine and fly and laugh and cry and hurt and heal and fall and get back up and play and work and live and die as YOU. It’s enough. It’s Plenty.

Magical blessings,

Nicole Graham

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International Women's Day 2014, Inspiring Change

International Women’s Day celebrates the social, political and economic achievements of women while focusing world attention on areas requiring further action. This year’s theme ‘Inspiring Change’ is an advocacy for women’s advancement everywhere in every way.

When I read ‘advocacy for women’s advancement’ I thought “how?”

How can I inspire change for women’s advancement,
particularly everywhere in every way?

The best way I feel is by beginning with me.

I can inspire change by …
sharing my beliefs and my truths;
treating each person as I would like to be treated;
respecting each person as I wish to be respected.

I can inspire change by …
being an example and showing that there is an alternative way;
finding what lights me up and thoroughly enjoy it;
walking the talk, consistently.

I can inspire change by …
giving back where and when I can;
being open to possibilities and opportunities;
apologising and forgiving myself, and others.

I can inspire change through love.

Today I’m going to reflect and give thanks to those who inspire me. I look around and I am blessed to have many inspiring people in my life. They may not know they’re inspiring me … and they may not be seen as ‘advocating for women’ … yet their actions and messages are expanding people’s thinking, which indirectly helps the cause for women’s equality {as well as men’s}.

How about you … will you join me?

To celebrate International Women’s Day, I’m sharing this video because it inspires me to do better and be better. Enjoy!

Magical blessings,

Nicole Graham

Releasing and Letting Go

Hi Gorgeous! Welcome to my {new} online space.

While creating this space back in late 2012, I was trying really hard to make a personal and professional shift… which didn’t quiet happy.  During this time I released all my past blog posts {over 800 posts and over 1500 comments}, website content and images into the Universe. I was a little nervous about deleting a part of me that dated back to mid-2006 however I needed to let go to move forward. I realised I was trying to hold on to “what was” instead of moving forward with “what is”.

At the same time, I let go of my business name, The Modern Goddess. The name has served it’s purpose and my ego was holding on to it because people knew “of me” through the name. RIP The Modern Goddess.

Between now and then I’ve put 110% of my efforts into my business, Bauhinia Solutions.  I was no longer ‘empowering women’ through my Modern Goddess site, instead I have been supporting business owners {mostly women} with their administration needs.  My professional life took a completely different direction {initially not what I had expected} and I have been intentionally creating my business.

However, since late 2012, little by little my desire to reconnect back to my core has been growing.  My core is teaching.  For the past four years I have been so caught up with my business that I allowed it to rule my life {not a healthy way to be}.

It’s been a journey to get here … I’ve grieved for what isn’t and am very grateful for what is. I’m ready … ready to step out from being ‘behind the scenes’ … ready to step into my potential.

… I’m ready to shine my light.

So … I hope you join me on this next chapter. I don’t know where it will lead me. My approach is to go with the flow and follow my heart.  I’m going to lean into each step with confidence that the Universe will provide me with the direction … I have promised to myself to listen for the whispers and keep my eyes open for the signs.

Please explore the site.  If you’re new here, you may want to get to know me a little better, if so, check out my About page.

{PS: I’d like to thank the lovely Linda from Full Moon Design for her creative input. Linda helped me a great deal with the look and feel of this lovely new space.  Linda also designed our gorgeous Goddess Journals}.

Magical blessings,
Nicole Graham